Psyche-Babble

I have been trying to work out, Why Chastity? Why Lingerie? Why do it?

I’ve been having some ups and downs recently where I really haven’t felt like messing about.  During this time I have been wondering why I bother.  It also seems so stupid and childish, but then again I am back in the mood now and am considering answering the questions.

I am going to make some sweeping generalizations here.  Please don’t comment just to say here is the exception, but I would welcome other peoples opinions on the subjects.

Most people involved in Chastity are men, Why is that?

On all the boards and chat rooms I frequent, most of the people that have involvement in chastity are men.  Either they are the ones suggesting or getting a belt for their woman, they are men who want the experience and persuade their woman to lock them up, or they are gay men.

I have a couple of ideas on this, the first is that men masturbating is considered socially bad.  This means that society puts the emphasis on men stopping what they are doing, hence the chastity craze, men that feel they shouldn’t possibly think that if they shouldn’t why should their woman.

Next there is the bondage aspect.  There are people out there who use this as part of a bondage routine, but once again there seem to be a lot more men looking for a woman to take the key to keep them locked, which in this context is at the very least topping from the bottom?

There are the “I don’t trust my spouse to not screw around” group.  If this is the only way to trust surely there are bigger issues?

In my case, I think I like the belt for 2 reasons, the first is the feeling of controlled, I know that a phone call and I could find out where the key is hidden, but the challenge is to not do that, the challenge to get as horny as possibly without relief, and they takes someone elses help.

The second reason is also about being controlled.  When we mess around in the bedroom (or anywhere else ) I generally get pushy, this is a very easy way for her to get pushy back and I can’t do any thing about it, except end the game, it takes some of the burden off her about how to get me to try something, and helps me remember to not be so pushy.

The other thought I am contemplating in sissyfication, or man wearing panties.

I find this so interesting too, Normally I wear briefs as my underwear of choice, but mens underwear is not very creative.  Shorts, Briefs, Thongs, that’s about it.

I can see the appeal of women wanting their men in something different, something slinkier.  I also find on boards and chat rooms that generally there are more women who start this with their men than vice versa.  Perhaps this is something that is socially acceptable?

If women are allowed to wear men’s clothes, why shouldn’t men wear womens underwear.  The problem comes with the mechanics, there is just no where to put your balls LOL.

So after this miandering waffle, as I sit here locked in the belt, with the body stocking locked on the inside of the belt…..

I think for me it is a reminder of playing, it is trying to get me worked up, it is foreplay.  If my wife decides she’d like to see me in lace panties for the day, that’s cool, it is good she wants to pay attention to my underwear .  By the time I get home from work I will be horny, she will be wanting to grope my ass and be ready to go, and there is a 50/50 chance that by the end of the day I will still be all over her, wanting out, as she lays there in her afterglow deciding if this would be a good way to spend tomorrow too.

I really would like to know what others think, so comments please?