Psyche-Babble
I have been trying to work out, Why Chastity? Why Lingerie? Why do it?
I’ve been having some ups and downs recently where I really haven’t felt like messing about. During this time I have been wondering why I bother. It also seems so stupid and childish, but then again I am back in the mood now and am considering answering the questions.
I am going to make some sweeping generalizations here. Please don’t comment just to say here is the exception, but I would welcome other peoples opinions on the subjects.
Most people involved in Chastity are men, Why is that?
On all the boards and chat rooms I frequent, most of the people that have involvement in chastity are men. Either they are the ones suggesting or getting a belt for their woman, they are men who want the experience and persuade their woman to lock them up, or they are gay men.
I have a couple of ideas on this, the first is that men masturbating is considered socially bad. This means that society puts the emphasis on men stopping what they are doing, hence the chastity craze, men that feel they shouldn’t possibly think that if they shouldn’t why should their woman.
Next there is the bondage aspect. There are people out there who use this as part of a bondage routine, but once again there seem to be a lot more men looking for a woman to take the key to keep them locked, which in this context is at the very least topping from the bottom?
There are the “I don’t trust my spouse to not screw around” group. If this is the only way to trust surely there are bigger issues?
In my case, I think I like the belt for 2 reasons, the first is the feeling of controlled, I know that a phone call and I could find out where the key is hidden, but the challenge is to not do that, the challenge to get as horny as possibly without relief, and they takes someone elses help.
The second reason is also about being controlled. When we mess around in the bedroom (or anywhere else 
) I generally get pushy, this is a very easy way for her to get pushy back and I can’t do any thing about it, except end the game, it takes some of the burden off her about how to get me to try something, and helps me remember to not be so pushy.
The other thought I am contemplating in sissyfication, or man wearing panties.
I find this so interesting too, Normally I wear briefs as my underwear of choice, but mens underwear is not very creative. Shorts, Briefs, Thongs, that’s about it.
I can see the appeal of women wanting their men in something different, something slinkier. I also find on boards and chat rooms that generally there are more women who start this with their men than vice versa. Perhaps this is something that is socially acceptable?
If women are allowed to wear men’s clothes, why shouldn’t men wear womens underwear. The problem comes with the mechanics, there is just no where to put your balls LOL.
So after this miandering waffle, as I sit here locked in the belt, with the body stocking locked on the inside of the belt…..
I think for me it is a reminder of playing, it is trying to get me worked up, it is foreplay. If my wife decides she’d like to see me in lace panties for the day, that’s cool, it is good she wants to pay attention to my underwear 
. By the time I get home from work I will be horny, she will be wanting to grope my ass and be ready to go, and there is a 50/50 chance that by the end of the day I will still be all over her, wanting out, as she lays there in her afterglow deciding if this would be a good way to spend tomorrow too.
I really would like to know what others think, so comments please?
sounds like your up for a lot of frustration in the cb6000
enjoy it even thouh its probably driving you mad
it is mainly men because this is about the experience of the male sex drive.
men and women have different reproductive systems, and the hormones related to these give them some really different experiences, hard to fully understand what it feels to be the opposite sex.
and our orgasms are totally different. for a man is a gut wrenching full on energy release that includes an energy drop, an instant big change in the hormonal balance of his body often leaving him drowsy, and an immediate physical loss of interest in sex and pleasing his mate. rate of repeat is 20 minutes at best. for a woman, she can orgasm over and over and over and over, and her orgasms will energize her.
if women really understood the benefits of male chastity not in terms of just how it benefits them – by making him more pliable – but that it is a health benefit of both mind and body to her slave (if he learns how to channel his energy), as well as a very intriguing intimate game, then there’d be way more female interest in male chastity.
by denying orgasms she will be changing the hormonal balance of her male slave so serving actually becomes more erotic and pleasing to him, and pleasing her becomes an even more urgent priority (and pleasure). for a man this makes life a little more straightforward, gives it a purpose. it locks his energy down and focuses it on a goal, of earning release – which will take good behavior and quality service if he is to have any chance of release. it satisfies a males quest for a mission, much like a dog needs a job to do to be truly happy. and it gives him a constant source of energy to draw on. male chastity is actually a benefit to the male as well as increasing his female companion’s quality of life.
a special bonus to the man who learns how to sexually satisfy his wife with even his cock, but without cumming, so she has no worry of his chastity schedule when considering her own pleasure. for most men, this requires learning a new trick, patience, and a longer attention span, but the type of men who submit are usually excellent learners. so if she can train her man how to not go for the immediate goal of orgasm, and to find the pleasure in reaching a certain plateau but not releasing, the she will have herself an excellent lover as well a more healthy and happy dedicated devoted mate.
by continually amping up the sexual tension with her boy, from subtle to full on, the wife may find she has the most devoted and balanced mate she could ever find, because then behind all this, even in unloading the groceries there is always, always, always the heat of passion smoldering within her man, and that will add numerous essences of joy to her life.